Comments on: Self Worth http://dark2light.wordpress.com/2009/05/03/self-worth/ The story of an abuse survivor Wed, 25 Nov 2009 12:50:18 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: sulz http://dark2light.wordpress.com/2009/05/03/self-worth/#comment-9262 sulz Thu, 07 May 2009 01:18:12 +0000 http://dark2light.wordpress.com/?p=400#comment-9262 if you make good use of the gym then i think you're definitely worth it! not that you aren't if you don't make good use, but rather that the money would be wasted if you paid so much and didn't make use of the facilities. point is, gym is like a buffet - no sense in paying all that money and not using it to your heart's content. okay, really bad analogy! if you make good use of the gym then i think you’re definitely worth it! not that you aren’t if you don’t make good use, but rather that the money would be wasted if you paid so much and didn’t make use of the facilities. point is, gym is like a buffet – no sense in paying all that money and not using it to your heart’s content.

okay, really bad analogy!

]]> By: Austin http://dark2light.wordpress.com/2009/05/03/self-worth/#comment-9233 Austin Mon, 04 May 2009 13:47:50 +0000 http://dark2light.wordpress.com/?p=400#comment-9233 We seem to think others can see the "dirt" on us and maybe even smell the lack of worth before we enter the room. I feel sometimes like I reek of disgust and surely everyone around me is gagging but in their determination to be civil they hide it. These things aren't real but are emotional residue from the abuse. When spoken I'm shocked by the objections and offense taken by those who heard me say it. I feel like I'm stating the obvious but in reality I've offended their friend, me. I think I know something about myself that they don't but even if they knew every detail I doubt they would think I'm as rancid as I believe myself to be. It's always helpful to see through someone elses eyes from time to time. It can be a nice reality check. If I'd said what you said with the reaction you got I think I would have said to myself, "oops"... and then been a bit confused. Why can't they see "me"? Why don't they know I may not be worth this? They see a person put forth tremendous effort in other areas. They see successes and failures. They see a <b>whole person</b> separate from her abuse. This is how we should be seen because while abuse has scarred our lives it is not 100% who we are. Sometimes its helpful to look through someone elses eyes for a clearer view of our worth. Austin We seem to think others can see the “dirt” on us and maybe even smell the lack of worth before we enter the room. I feel sometimes like I reek of disgust and surely everyone around me is gagging but in their determination to be civil they hide it. These things aren’t real but are emotional residue from the abuse. When spoken I’m shocked by the objections and offense taken by those who heard me say it. I feel like I’m stating the obvious but in reality I’ve offended their friend, me. I think I know something about myself that they don’t but even if they knew every detail I doubt they would think I’m as rancid as I believe myself to be. It’s always helpful to see through someone elses eyes from time to time. It can be a nice reality check.

If I’d said what you said with the reaction you got I think I would have said to myself, “oops”… and then been a bit confused. Why can’t they see “me”? Why don’t they know I may not be worth this? They see a person put forth tremendous effort in other areas. They see successes and failures. They see a whole person separate from her abuse. This is how we should be seen because while abuse has scarred our lives it is not 100% who we are.

Sometimes its helpful to look through someone elses eyes for a clearer view of our worth.

Austin

]]> By: jigsaw analogy http://dark2light.wordpress.com/2009/05/03/self-worth/#comment-9228 jigsaw analogy Mon, 04 May 2009 04:45:21 +0000 http://dark2light.wordpress.com/?p=400#comment-9228 good luck with the gym. i understand feeling like i don't deserve things that are good for me, or make me feel good. i cover it up pretty well most of the time, but that low self worth is still there. good luck with the gym. i understand feeling like i don’t deserve things that are good for me, or make me feel good. i cover it up pretty well most of the time, but that low self worth is still there.

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